Ladies, don’t marry a man that can’t cook!

GettyImages_164664581With a lot of my “little” girls getting married these days, I tend to think to myself: “Femi, you’re a grand father!” Well, that kind of makes me feel good. Very good too.

While all that is good, a little advice to all the ladies out there: DON’T MARRY A MAN THAT CAN’T COOK!!!

Now I don’t mean that literarily (but if he can cook it’s a plus 🙂 ), what I actually mean is this; a man must be able to help himself. There are too many “handicapped” men looking for a babysitter. Unfortunately, there are also a lot of confused ladies that think their role is to babysit a grownup. The tragedy of this unhealthy combination is abuse. Abuse in different forms and shapes.

As it is commonly said, if he’s looking for a woman that can cook, can wash, can sweep, can mow, can clean…he’s not looking for a wife, he’s looking for a maid. Should a woman be able to do all that? Yes, and a lot more!!! But if he marries you because you can cook & wash & sweep & mow & clean, then don’t complain when he turns you into a maid.

Assuming you’re heavily pregnant and you came back home tired from work with the house unclean and no food for the family, what happens? Or what happens if you are out of the country for an extended period of time? If you marry a man that can’t help himself, he will be totally miserable or easily get another “maid” that will fill the gap in your absence.

Save yourself the heartache; don’t marry a man that can’t cook!

6 Responses to “Ladies, don’t marry a man that can’t cook!”

  1. Debbie March 27, 2013 at 8:48 pm #

    Late late late!!!! LOL! Thank you for the word of advice! Thank God for mercies oh! When I see such things it helps me evaluate and thank God! Even though my husband is very domesticated, at some point when we just got married, I felt like a multipurpise machine! Now don’t look @ me that way! So imagine if I actually was one of the confused ones! A word of enough oh! Thanks daddy 😀

  2. Seiyefa Egein March 28, 2013 at 9:11 am #

    My position in any pre-marriage relationship is: “If he can’t wash your dad’s car, you shouldn’t wash his clothes”.
    I don’t want to be the absolutely independent uber-male. I want a wife I can depend on and a wife who will depend on me. Man’s born incomplete, and the essence of marriage is to find the completing part. This sense of mutuality is the very essence of marriage.

    • Femi March 28, 2013 at 4:13 pm #

      Waow, that’s an interesting one: “If he can’t wash your dad’s car, you shouldn’t wash his clothes”

  3. Morenike March 28, 2013 at 12:48 pm #

    Pastor Femi,

    Nice one! The title caught my attention, but the content kept me reading to the end. It is definitely true that a man must be able to help himself as occasion demands, otherwise the woman is in for a loooooong overworked journey. God bless.

    • Femi March 28, 2013 at 4:14 pm #

      So true Morenike. Like Debbie said, the woman will become a “a multipurpise machine!”

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