Gentlemen, don’t marry a woman that won’t cook!

This is a sequel to my last post (Ladies, don’t marry a man that can’t cook!).

I know that some will argue that this is the 21st century, times have changed, etc…etc… however, the gender confusion that plagues the world today can be traced to the confusion in sexual identities and roles of the man and the woman.

It is clear from how differently men and women are built and wired that the Creator had different identities & roles in mind. While there are functions that both genders can perform comfortably well, that does not mean they were designed for it. For instance, the fact that I can use my ipad to hit a tennis serve does not mean that it was designed for that.

Women are designed to nurture. In a family setting the woman should take responsibility for nurturing her home. The man should partner with her in the nurturing process, but it should be the woman’s call. Similarly, the man is designed to provide and he should take responsibility for providing for his family…the woman can partner with him in the provision process, but it should be the man’s call. It’s as simple as that.

You’ll be shocked how stressless millions of lives will be by this simple alignment.

Back to nurturing. A major part of nurturing is feeding! The woman is so built for this that the Creator gave her two breasts with the primary purpose of feeding her young. Yet, we increasingly hear of mothers that have no interest in breast feeding their children. They’ll rather keep their breasts “intact” for looking good & sexual appeal. Gentlemen, don’t marry a woman that won’t breast feed your children!

The breast is there to make a statement: I am in charge of feeding! So, it’s a misnomer to have a wife that won’t take charge of feeding her family. Now, don’t get me wrong. I understand that some men are better cooks. I have a friend that cooks most of the family’s meals…and that’s fine, if they are both cool with it…but the lady also cooks and “owns” the nourishment of her family.

I also understand that there are some ladies that can’t cook. If you can’t cook it’s one thing, but if you won’t cook it’s another thing entirely. If you can’t cook, you should be willing to learn. I have another friend that really loves good food (like most men do), but his wife is not a good cook. He said to me “I’m content with the fact that she makes the effort. So her food becomes delicious to me”. My wife couldn’t bake when we got married and I love cake :D…but now, my wife bakes the best chocolate cakes in the world!…I know you will contest that, but wait until you taste it. 🙂

So ladies, take responsibility for feeding your family. Even if you have a really busy schedule and you have a professional cook, you should still be in charge of the food your family eats…the planning, oversight, etc…

Guys, take my advice: don’t marry a woman that won’t cook!!!

What are your thoughts?

9 Responses to “Gentlemen, don’t marry a woman that won’t cook!”

  1. Debbie July 4, 2013 at 12:17 pm #

    “I’m content with the fact that she makes the effort. So her food becomes delicious to me”. That is just beautiful. well i love love so… 🙂

    What is a woman who loves to cook, cooks and her husband eats just a little to do then? Please blog about that too o.

    Now for all those ladies who are keeping their breasts for ‘beauty’, i read online that the ‘”gravity” that happens is not as a result of breast feeding but it actually occurs when you are pregnant and the body is prepping for child birth. So feeding or not feeding cannot change that! word to the wise! except you decide not to have babies at all in which case, “gravity” still happens!

    • OLUFEMI MONEHIN July 4, 2013 at 2:28 pm #

      Thanks Debbie for the insight on “gravity”.

      The woman that loves to cook and her husband eats a little should invite some people I know for dinner 🙂

      • Debbie July 4, 2013 at 3:21 pm #

        LOL! Dinner Invite coming up!

  2. olufunmi oyediran July 4, 2013 at 12:51 pm #

    I totally agree with you Sir. That a lot of us women are becoming more involved in our careers doesn’t mean we should put d care of our homes on the backburner

    • OLUFEMI MONEHIN July 4, 2013 at 2:31 pm #

      Thanks Funmi.
      In most cases it really doesn’t have to be either/or.

  3. Wale Adenuga July 4, 2013 at 1:33 pm #

    Good write-up. Won’t cook is more dangerous than can’t cook 🙂

  4. Morenike July 4, 2013 at 6:27 pm #

    Pastor Femi,

    Nice write-up. I especially like the “demarcation” of duties…. Women to nurture with the help of their husbands, while men should provide with possible help from their wives.

    God bless

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